Men are being told to boost their EQ and feel empathy. But a great many already do — they just need permission to unleash it. These days, a lot of the conversation around leadership suggests that women are more likely to bring emotional intelligence to the table in a work environment, while men are relatively … Read more
Have you ever been tickled and while squealing with delight you begged for it to stop? While you may not have realized it at the time, you were holding two conflicting thoughts at once, which is an evolved way of thinking. In spite of the fact that it’s much easier to be polarized, increasingly we … Read more
June is the month to celebrate fathers and while daughters appreciate the exemplary role these important figures played during their formative years, making fires at the lake and coaching their soccer team, a father’s job is never done. The most important thing a father can do for their daughter is to help pave the way … Read more
Recently, while describing a film to a friend I referred to it as a lesbian love story. Sensing that wasn’t quite right I then followed up with the query, “Perhaps I should have said that it is a passionate love story between two women?” To this, she responded, “Why does it have to include gender … Read more
For my male readership, here is a reminder to keep tucked away in your back pocket. Balanced leaders make better leaders. To be more successful you’ll stand a better chance if you stop following outdated stereotypes that subscribe to the masculine, tough-guy style of leadership. This does not mean that you must give up your … Read more
Why paint yourself with the either/or, black-or-white binary system of gender when instead you could be a vibrant mosaic of masculine and feminine attributes? By letting go of stereotypes and celebrating individuals with a mix of gender characteristics, you’ll create more opportunities for yourself and others. Imagine if boys could be soft and caring without … Read more
Recently, I sat with a woman who described applying for a CEO position in a prestigious trade organization; she was offered the job, and then turning it down. Unsure about why she didn’t grab the ring when it was presented, she mused that maybe on some deep level she didn’t see herself as a leader. … Read more
Five years ago I gave a speech to a group of women engineers discussing my theories of ‘gender energy’. Before stepping on stage I felt some trepidation that this group of scientifically trained women would have a different specific notion of energy than what I was proposing. The idea that there are energy patterns which … Read more
If you are a woman working in a male-dominated environment it is easy to feel like a square peg in a round hole. You need to bring your authentic self to work to feel good about yourself, but your natural approach to situations is often different than that of your male co-workers. Rest assured that … Read more
Fathers make the world better so find yourself a council of Dads. I was struck with this idea when reading about a man in New York who was diagnosed with cancer. Concerned his six-year old twin daughters would grow up without a father he recruited a number of friends to assume that role. Each man … Read more
